deadcatwithaflamethrower:

einarshadow:

pengychan:

vivid-ellipses:

fadingsuggestion:

Fuck anyone who says I have to forgive everyone, “for my sake.” I worked hard for this anger. I worked hard to love myself enough to hate them.

Shit, yeah, this is a thing that is hard to articulate. Some people don’t feel healed by forgiving the people who hurt them, because that’s what they kept doing over and over and it only led to getting more hurt. Sometimes you feel healed when you’re finally brave enough to say “This person was horrible to me, and I did not deserve that treatment, and I don’t have to be okay with it.”

From Toxic Parents:

@deadcatwithaflamethrower

A step you should follow, though: Remember to forgive yourself.

It isn’t your fault you were treated that way. It isn’t your fault that you fell for their lies, or that you believed their empty promises. It’s okay if it took you a long time to get out of that terrible situation even after people told you to get out, or that you knew you should. You’re not a bad person for doing what your abuser demanded.

You didn’t do anything wrong. Forgive yourself, and fuck them.