trans women don’t experience male socialization before we come out
we experience closeted trans woman socialization which is an entirely different and extremely toxic monster
thank and have a terrible day if you disagree
hi if you’re safe to do so you should probably be reblogging this the idea that trans women are socialized as anything but women is one of the most potent arguments for stripping us of our humanity
Hi, transgender sociologist here. I love the OP because oh my gosh trans woman socialization is such a hugely complicated thing. So here’s simplified breakdown of how it works.
Socialization happens two ways. There is the socialization that we as people socialize ourselves as, and there is how society socializes us.
Trans girls socialize themselves maybe by watching other women and emulating them – often whether or not they realize they are doing it. Society socializes trans girls who don’t know they are trans yet by treating them overtly like boys.
What ends up happening is that there is explicit socialization that a trans girl chooses which can be EITHER socialization as a girl or a boy depending on whether or not they know they are trans – choosing birthday or holiday gifts would be an example of this; do they ask for the doll house or the construction set? And there is implicit socialization that is learned by the trans girl, which is usually a mix of mostly girl with a little of boy socialization stuff thrown in.
Then there is the same options for how society treats us, except that there is much less choice in that. Society will, in most cases, overtly treat a trans girl as a boy. This will be explicit stuff; trans girls are taught to use the boys bathroom, for example. Then there is all the implicit stuff, about how it is wrong to be an effeminate man.
When OP mentions trans woman socialization, they’re not wrong – and it is exactly that mix of self-socialization and outside socialization that shapes how trans women are socialized. It isn’t that we are socialized as men, or as women. We are socialized in a hugely complex interaction between socialization and men and women.
And yeah, it is toxic as fuck. Holy shit it can do a number on us. It is exactly that we need to be socialized one way and try our hardest to be, only to have society push back that fucks us up.
Can trans people be socialized strictly as girls/boys women/men? It does happened with exceptionally supportive parents and school systems. But right now it is rare. In most cases, we get the complex fucked up mix of everything.
So don’t ever let a jerk tell you, a trans person, that you were socialized as just a man or just a woman. That’s not even how socialization works.
maybe wander around the house/stretch a little if you’ve been sat at the computer a while (artists especially: sTRETCH THOSE WRISTS)
reply to that text/message from earlier you’d forgotten about
maybe send a nice lil message to someone having a bad day?
I just would like to thank everyone who ever reblogs this so that it somehow ends up back on my dash because I usually need the reminder (especially the drinking water one)
So I was taught a lesson in how to get rid of a migraine in 30 seconds and omfg listen my migraines don’t go away ever but I was shown what part of my body to touch and like???????????????
It’s witchcraft????????? Like I would be burned at the stake if I lived in ye olde days knowing that information?????
What the fuck??????
Spill it! Lol….Hooooowwwww?? Had migraines since age 9….😓😓😓
Its called the T4 push, but I literally can’t find the info online????? I guess I’m not searching good enough? These medical fuckers are holdin out on us lol.
It’s best to have someone do this for you while you stand up and relax your muscles as best you can, but if you’re alone, a tennis ball and a flat surface will probably work. Alternatively you can lie on the edge of a bed at the pressure point. (But no really do try to find someone to do it for you)
Find the area in your spine between either the first, second, third, or fourth vertebrae. It should be sore and uncomfortable to press down on, so look for the one that’s most painful, and press down with as much pressure as you can on that area for 30 seconds.
Realize that 80% of your pain has magically disappeared and keep the info secret if you live in a small puritan town, lest you be tried for witchcraft.
If you don’t have to worry about being burned or hanged, then share the info with your migraine suffering friends.
As someone who wrote a 10k word paper on pressure points for a high belt ranking test in her martial arts class, I can tell you that you just found a pressure point used in acupressure and acupuncture to relieve pain, particularly that in the head. 🙂
Hand to god we discovered this by accident when my husband was rubbing my neck and I nearly collapsed it felt so good
This post was sent by literal angels??? I’ve had a persistent low-level headache for nearly 24hrs and now it’s gone??? In 30 seconds? What gods did you sacrifice to for this information!?!?
As a medical massage therapist, I thought I would give my two cents.
This is good for tension migranes and normal migraines, but actually pretty useless for sinus migraines. It’ll help for a hot second, but quickly come back. (These are usually the migraines behind your eyes, in your ears, and behind your forehead. Sometimes it can feel like jaw pain or TMJ) for sinus migraines, behind the ear in a divot. Press down firmly and pull towards your collarbone. That’ll drain your sinuses. Also, pressing around the eye socket on the cheekbones help. There is also a little triangle up away from the eye in the eyebrow bone. Press and hold pretty hard and that’ll relieve that behind the forehead pain. Also, ear pulling is great to help move sinuses around.
Don’t forget the temples too! Press firmly and hold. Open and close your jaw while holding your temples. It’ll feel weird, but it’ll help with jaw pain. It’ll work a similar way if you hold the jaw joint under your cheekbone.
And never underestimate the power of a foot massage!! Give minutes can be all the difference!! Our feet are our base. If they hurt even a little, somewhere else in your body will hurt. Treat your feet and sinuses kindly!
As a lifelong sufferer from frequent migraines I will reblog this everytime I see it, for myself and my fellow sufferers!!
Just wanted to add, there is a pressure point between your thumb and pointer finger that, when firmly pressed and held for 30 seconds, can greatly reduce pain and nausea from some migraines. I do this every time I have a migraine, and 4/5 it works to alleviate the symptoms for a significant (1+ hours) amount of time. It is super easy to perform and has been magic for my pain.
Take your thumb and pointer finger from your left hand and grab the muscle between your pointer finger and thumb on your right hand. Apply constant, firm pressure to the muscle and hold for thirty seconds. If it is working for you, you should feel the pain in your head reducing within the first 5-10 seconds with the most significant reduction in symptoms occurring around 20-25 seconds. After thirty seconds reduce pressure slowly and release.
I hope this helps some of my fellow migraine sufferers!
I am prescribed deep tissue massage for my shoulders and neck specifically because of my migraines. Not that insurance can afford it, but still.
maybe wander around the house/stretch a little if you’ve been sat at the computer a while (artists especially: sTRETCH THOSE WRISTS)
reply to that text/message from earlier you’d forgotten about
maybe send a nice lil message to someone having a bad day?
I just would like to thank everyone who ever reblogs this so that it somehow ends up back on my dash because I usually need the reminder (especially the drinking water one)
I’m feeling feels about this, too. The man was so important to me growing up, more so now that I understand the importance of his disability. I’m trying really hard not to think about it.
Like you can only function when you have a million things you have to do and if you’re not extremely busy always your life falls into shambles what is that called
Panic
adrenaline-dependant productivity
ive been trying to explain it to a classmate of mine for moths thanks for the description
isn’t this often caused by forcing nd children into doing things in ways that activates their fight or flight result so while they complete the task they said they couldn’t do, it becomes so linked to high stress levels they don’t know how to do it when calm?
I think is more the thing ADHD people do when they’re at the end of a deadline and they rush through everything and somehow get it done in the nick of time
I’m addicted to stress, it’s the way that I get things done When I’m not under pressure then I sleep too long And I hang around like a bum I think I’m going nowhere and that makes me nervous
Activation of fight/flight/freeze responses in anyone whose brain is still developing or in someone who suffered trauma while their brain was still developing functions, on a practical level, identically to ADHD to the point that it is recommended any minor diagnosed with ADHD who is not receiving sufficient support from their ADHD treatments be assessed for trauma as well because it’s such a common occurrence for the trauma reaction to manifest identically to their ADHD symptoms.
So yes you’re right that this is something ADHD people do, but also yes, @palpablenotion is correct about another demographic who experiences this, and also it’s just really common in general for people with childhood trauma to be hyper-functional under severe stress like this, immediately followed by burnout and a continued lack of ability to perform when not under that severe level of pressure.
Interesting. I will have to dig into this a little more. Thank you for educating me on this.
This is the first time I’ve heard of it, but thank you very much for bringing it to my attention! This is very interesting, and the more I know, the more I can help! With that in mind, please let me know if I make any mistakes.
I’d like to acknowledge that most internet sources actually talk about ideational apraxia, which is similar but not quite the same as dyspraxia – if I understand right, ideational apraxia can be caused by neurological damage, and it’s very common in Alzheimer’s sufferers, people who have had strokes, and those with dementia. With ideational dyspraxia, it will be developmental, and with us from birth.
People with ideational dyspraxia will have issues with doing tasks in the right order, or with knowing exactly how to do a task, even if they’ve done it before. For instance, they might put shampoo in their hair before turning on or entering a shower. It’s not necessarily that they don’t know how to have a shower, just that the order of events gets mixed up.
Ideational dyspraxia can also cause people to use objects for the wrong tasks. When handed a toothbrush, their brain might think that is serves the same purpose as a pencil, and try to write with it because it is a similar shape.
This is just my input here, but I think ideational dyspraxia may play a hand in some of the executive dysfunction we experience! If we don’t feel like we know exactly how we’re going to take on a task, we might freeze up and avoid doing it, even though we know it needs done.
At my new job, I’ve been writing the steps to most tasks in a notebook so that I can refer to them when I’m asked to do them. My colleagues think I’m very organised, but it’s just one big cheat-sheet!
Still battling with my anger at all the adults in my life who failed me. Who insisted I was making things up, being too sensitive, acting ‘weird’ or shutting down on purpose to get attention or to purposely make them angry, who would do things to me I said hurt, or things that would heavily upset me, or hit me when i was having a meltdown, because I “need to toughen up” , and the sheer joy and freedom I have now in accepting myself and the way my brain and body works 🙂 and understanding myself like I never have before.
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