it’s people insisting that other queer people don’t matter as much as they do and being so ridiculously selfish that they can’t even let people have personal headcanons that don’t fucking affect anyone else.
The reason nb and gq people get to be upset about the forcible use of “SGA”, even though it’s about attraction
Is because it presupposes and sets a requirement for same-gender attraction for all bi/pan/ply people
It thus it tells people with unique genders, with genders divorced completely from the binary, or with no gender, that they inherently cannot be bi/pan/ply
This has led directly to the discourse about whether “non-SGA” BPP people are part of this community, has gone so far as to have those people declared Straight By Default, and completely shits on the accepting nature of the BPP community which historically was where anyone not 100% straight or 100% gay got covered and welcomed, including aces and aros, before we had a term to collectively refer to ourselves
It also tells lots of nb and gq people who ARE binary-aligned or whose gender(s) reference the major binary ones, that the only reason anyone is attracted to us is that we’re Close Enough to a binary gender so we “count” as that gender for everyone else’s purposes and attractions (that’s what “same or similar” does. It really does not make some of us feel respected at all)
Especially considering that bigender and genderfluid people are already actively shut out of sapphic and achillian spaces and are told they inherently CAN’T be SGA because they’re sometimes not the right gender so the times they are don’t matter
So when you’re like “it’s not about gender, it doesn’t need to accommodate nb/gq identities!”, you’re ignoring our very valid concerns with how the concept of “SGA and Trans” actually functions in practice, and how centering gayness as the only way to be non-straight directly contributes to harmful views about and erasure of nb/gq people (in addition to positioning mspec people as Gay Lite which is Bad)
Even if you, yourself, are nb or gq, and see nothing wrong with how SGA applies to you or with using it for yourself, you don’t get to make that decision for the rest of us, and you don’t get to silence us
P.S. We’re also allowed to Not Want to be labeled forcibly as either SGA or Non-SGA, for any reason, and expect to have that respected, like all the people who come howling after me for using queer (for myself) say they want. Forcible labeling of fellow marginalized people is extremely Not Good
I feel it’s worth pointing out, additionally, there are apparently at least some people who have tried to “fix” “same or similar gender” being pretty bad at accommodating nb/gq people by extending it even further, to “similar method of gender identity”, the example I saw used being something along the lines of “agender people attracted to other agender people are sga because they identify similarly”.
Even just on the face of it, it’s… absurd, to me, at least.
If all that’s needed to be “sga” is to have a gender identity that’s defined or functions similarly to those you are attracted to, and this works for “agender”, does it work for “genderfluid”? What about “demigender”? Or, hell, what about freaking “binary”?
I mean, it just seems like a trying-to-be-sneaky way of trying to argue that being agender/genderless is, in fact, a gender. Which is just… no.
I know we’re always talking about how Pacific Rim embraces the ridiculousness of the human race because “just build a giant robot to punch them in the face” is probably the most full-on human bullshit response we could have thought of to an invasion of giant aliens, but can we pause and also consider that the aliens are basically doing the same thing
like they wanted to invade us and their first thought about how to do so was “let’s genetically engineer giant fucking monsters that will crawl out of the depths of the ocean and trample cities”
Pacific Rim is just the story of two species that on a scale from 1 to 10 respond to every problem with a 17
Yes, a deer. A three-day-old baby deer. It was a terrible idea. When the students rocked back up to the field station with it, we told them off for stock rustling, took it to the farmer who was like, what the fuck am I going with that, I’ll have to cut its throat and use it for dog meat, and we were like, uh, no, so we took it to the SPCA, who were DELIGHTED.
I THOUGHT A “FAWN” WAS SOME KIND OF OBSCURE GEOLOGICAL TERM I DIDN’T UNDERSTAND
YOU PUT A BABY DEER IN A BACKPACK
More geology field shenanigans!
Respected professor claims our hydrochloric acid solution is less acidic than coca cola. We dare him to drink it. HE DOES.
Hiking up a mountain on crutches. “YOLO!”
Painting Cambrian-age trilobite fossils with nail polish.
Creepy abandoned fishing villages. So many creepy abandoned fishing villages.
Student finds brachiopod fossils in an outcrop behind said creepy abandoned fishing village. Respected professor gasps and squeaks “Brachiopods??!?” and goes tearing off up a hill to find them.
Students collect so many rock samples that we can no longer see the floor of the 15 passenger van. The van floor begins to develop its own stratigraphy.
Racing the roadside moose in the 15 passenger van.
Respected professor takes both hands off of the wheel of the moving van to get a picture of the moose. Panic ensues.
Mapping an island with nothing but a Brunton compass, a field notebook, and the largest bottle of fireball whiskey money can buy.
Respected Professor singing along to “Man-Eating Trilobite”
Entire class goes to local bar and won’t stop singing local drinking song for about a week.
That one vegan student that survives off of french fries for a month.
Stealing rock samples from National Parks
Straddling the moho
Licking the moho
Peeing on mantle peridotite just to see if it fizzes
Using the same pocket knife for everything. Eating. Scratching rocks. Removing splinters. Seriously, it’s gross.
Hiking down a river only to discover the water level is MUCH HIGHER than anticipated
Nearly drowning in said river but damn it you kept your electronics DRY
“It’s not safe to drink the water. So everyone gets 2 beers per meal”.
Fitting the entire class into a single hot tub
Every lobster is named Jack Daniels. It is known.
That one “Chinese Canadian Fusion” restaurant
*DID* IT FIZZ?
my husband was once Responsible Adult on a geology field course and the highlight was when I was calling him and it was like
Dr Glass: Oh, an undergrad’s just thrown his compass into the sea.
Me: is that… part of the exercise?
Dr Glass: *nonjudgmentally* well…
(an unearthly, animal roar is heard over the phone)
Dr Glass: Ah, now he’s going into the sea.
Me: …To get the compass?
Dr Glass: I think he just wants the sea to take him.
(a peaceable, nonjudgmental silence follows, with distant splashing)
Dr Glass: Well, I think I’ll go get him now.
I wanna know the lyrics to “Man-Eating Trilobite”.
i have an idea in my head where thor is just like. painfully incapable of being cissexist.
like some transphobic reporter asks him abt his sexuality and he’s “i have been attracted to many of your midgardian genders” and “what” and “my current paramor is genderqueer” “are they male or female” “they are neither of those two genders, that is what i have just said!” “oh well what were they born as“ “oh no, dear friend, u appear to be confusing genderqueer with genderfluid! the lady mystique assures me that these are two very different things, [extremely extended explanation]”
y/y
oh my gosh yes
“but what are they biologically?”
“…they are human.”
oh my god
“But what is between their legs?!”
“That is not of your concern, but on a good day, myself!”
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