Just a little memory dump here, but stuff like the fidget spinner abuse bs has been happening since the fidget spinner was a thing.
Kids werent allowed to play with pencils, if we were caught fidgetting with something it was taken away and seen as a distraction.
I distinctly remember throughout highschool I was having an extremely hard time focusing BC of my ADHD, so I started attending classes with one headphone in and my music on the lowest volume setting possible. I got in trouble time after time after time and I kept getting told to keep it out of my ear. Of course I didn’t listen and kept doing it, because it helped me focus and I wasn’t gonna let kids that used it to ignore class get in the way of me being able to function.
Eventually my teachers gave up trying to make me stop and eventually also realized that it was improving my grades, so I was left alone as long as I was functioning to standard.
Word traveled around through the school staff (because they loved me for some reason and knew what i was going through at home) and basically teachers were told to give me a pass on one ear buds and sitting wherever, as long as i paid attention to class. And to confront me if I started having issues.
In my forensics and chem class I had a horrible time sitting at those tiny desks so I talked with my teachers and I was allowed to sit at lab tables where I could stretch and shake my legs noiselessly, and also gently swivel on the seat to stim (lab tables always had those flat circular swivel chairs).
I was sitting at my chair in chem one day and the entire class got stopped because kids had started seeing me sitting at the table and on the lab chair and tried to follow suit, but were only doing it fuck around and ignoring class. One kid had successfully joined me at the lab tables because he too functioned and focused better sitting back at the tables. Fair enough.
My teacher Mrs.Reals gave an entire ten minute speech about how we were allowed to sit there because we paid attention to class and got work done and didnt fool around, and that other people weren’t allowed to sit back there because A: they didnt ‘need’ to, and B: because they were only doing it to fool around and ignore class. After that, I got nasty glares from kids for the rest of the semester and half my class hated me for functioning differently, and them not being able to capitalize off it.
Another instance was during my forensics class where I discussed with my teacher Mrs Adams if I could use my ear bud, and we both agreed only if I were to pay attention. I proved I would, and was allowed to.
One day we were watching a cold case and dissecting it and taking notes, and out of nowhere she paused it and pointed in my general direction and said “ear bud. Out. Now.”. My stomach jumped into my throat and I reached to take it out and she said “not you –omitted–. David. Ear bud. Out.”. And David had the absolute ballsacks to say “but she’s allowed to!! That isnt fair!!” And Mrs.Adams promptly said and I quote “she is allowed to because it helps her focus and she actually gets her work done. Her grades prove it. You dont. Your grades prove it. Give me your phone.”. And for the rest of the class I could feel his eyes burning through the back of my head and Mrs.Adams (who was seated directly in front of me) just occasionally told me I was okay and she would handle it.
Thankfully where I went to school, the teachers liked me and understood that I needed to do things differently from other kids and that others did too. A lot of schools arent like that and couldn’t care less about defending their neurodivergent students.
So the tldr here is; neurotypicals, please take note: if you cannot function properly doing the things we do to function in class, please to not ruin it for us for the sake of ‘equality’.
If you can do it and it helps you, I fully support you. And you help normalize it for us, so that’s great too.
But please dont try to screw other kids over because you think it’s an easy way to get out of doing school work and to distract yourself from class, because then it ruins it for everyone. Especially kids like me who would suffer otherwise.
Somewhere deep in your psyche, there is a primate going oh my fuck that is the most beautifully ripe fruit I have ever seen, look the skin is translucent and glistening and the color is so deep and thus full of life-sustaining sugars and nutrients, I am gonna eat the fuck out of that and I dare god or man to try and stop me
Slightly less deep, there is also a small child also going oh my fuck it’s a bag of brightly-colored and shiny delicious candy I am going to put ALL of it in my mouth right now and I dare Mom or Dad to try and stop me
Basically it’s a wonder all of us haven’t choked to death yet
i hope youre all lying and hyping your cv/resume’s up
i have never gotten an interview and not been offered a job position after it
I mean lets be honest if everyone else is gassing theirs up like no tomorrow and you’re being as honest as you can who th are the recruitment team going to be more interested in
There’s people working in my banks head office with me WITH MUCH MORE EXPERIENCE than me BUT ARE GETTING PAID LESS
we’re doing the exact same job role
the point I’m trying to make here is if you’ve handled finances for a company you’re now what i would call a treasurer my g, if you’ve done admin work you are now a secretary (or as I’ve put Management secretary)
you help some kid with his homework? you’re a private tutor.
keep your bullets points for the job role as concise and important sounding as possible AND ALWAYS EMPHASIS THAT YOURE A TEAM PLAYER IF YOURE GOING TO WORK IN A TEAM.
go into that interview room and get your story straight the night before and remember that interviews are two way conversatons yes they might be grilling you but at the end of it make sure to grill them BACK. do you have any hesitations about my qualifications? my suitability for the job? any feedback on my cv? how long have you been working at this company? do you like it here? whats the work environment like?
I ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS GET THE SAME FEEDBACK WHEN THEY GET BACK IN TOUCH WITH ME
“ive never been asked those questions before” / “you were one of the strongest candidates”
throughout the interview emphasise that youre about progression, that you want more responsibilities than you did at your previous job, tell them the hours here are more suitable for me than my last ones were, AND WHEN IT COMES TO SALARY NEGOTIATION its all about continuity. tell them again that it boils down to progression. make up a reasonable figure for how much you were paid in your last role (do your research for how much the industry youre applying to or the role youre applying for pays, base it on that) tell them you expect more than you were previously paid. do not give them a figure. progression is your primary focus, tell them if youre progressing youre happy. leave it at that.
LIE THROUGH YOUR TEETH AND GET THAT MONEY
I had an interview yesterday, at the place I’ve been temping, where I busted out the “is there anything about my skills or background that makes you concerned about my fit for this job” question for the first time.
Neither of my supervisors had never gotten it before either. They had to think for a while, and then it turned into them telling me how great I am and what they love about me.
This stuff is real. I would also say: none of it is lying. This is taking experience that you normally downplay and write off, and putting it in accurate words they’ll understand.
It’s hacking the capitalist system. Why ISN’T helping a kid with homework “tutoring”, when the only thing missing is a paycheck?
It’s especially important for anyone who isn’t a cis white man, because many of us are so thoroughly trained to feel like we are not good enough.
Privilege tells people they can fake it, and that they’re good enough just as people and can learn the skills on the job. Abuse and oppression tell people they aren’t good enough as people and that even their high skills are probably below average, and that unless they had the specific job title or were using certain skills officially, nobody will think it counts.
The goal is to at least fake the confidence of a privileged person, to give the employer a chance at seeing the skills that you’ve been trained to undervalue.
I would also say to answer any query of “Have you done [X small task] before?” with “I have, but it’s been a while.” Or, “I have, but it was a slightly different program.”
100% THEY WILL GLADLY WALK YOU THROUGH EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW, and I stress ‘gladly’ because claiming prior knowledge boosts their confidence in your abilities and any slips you make are already covered by your caveat.
blackstoic may have deactivated their account but this advice is fucking gold and all y’all looking for jobs or who think you might one day need to look for a new job PRINT THIS SHIT OUT AND STAPLE IT TO THE WALL.
also me: *pencil refuses to sharpen without lead falling out, faces all look weird, turns to digital and colors on wrong layer, line art on: unprofessional, line art off: WHERE IS HIS NOSE???, redraws the same thing 6 times and has to settle, WHY CAN I ONLY COLOR IN THIS TINY PORTION OF THE CANVAS??? WHY IS THERE AN INVISIBLE BOUNDARY???, oooh my gosh I didn’t write down my brush settings and I forgot to save that color I’ll never get it back, GET THE ERASER TO 1PT SO YOU CAN ZOOM IN TO THE MAX AND ERASE THE BACKGROUND THAT’S PEEKING THROUGH, has 20 layers all unnamed including random ones that seem to add nothing but now I’m too afraid to delete it in case it’s some miniscule detail I addded*
me, sobbing: i love drawing…,,,
me: Does half of my black line art right on top of my bright blue sketch layer, because I forgot to switch layers. 30 minutes of work wasted, must start over.
Thinks picture looks great, but flips canvas, character suddenly looks like Sloth from the Goonies.
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Someone who’s black or supports black people and their human rights. it literally says that in the description. “You don’t have to be black, it just means you support us, you stand by us and you’re for us.“
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