This is quite a shocker. I didn’t think it could get worse ,but it did.
Wow
Yikes
I had people tell me this kind of shit but they were usually older and I always rolled my eyes and laughed it off telling them it wasn’t true. But the thing is? They always argued it with me, swore up and down they just KNEW. And in the end it always boiled down to me being like “Look I know you THINK you know but you actually don’t so drop it.”
At the root of those naive racists are grandparents and parents who sternly will tell you they’re smarter than you and that they just KNOW these things. And if that’s all you’ve heard your whole life you think it’s facts.
The same way I was told by a family member with no medical background that he just KNEW you could get AIDS by shaking hands with someone. I had enough schooling to know that wasn’t fucking true. But he’s fought me on that tooth and nail literally the whole time I’ve known him.
They assume based on stupid shit and then try to pass that off as truth to their whole family. It’s garbage.
terrifying
Profound ignorance like this is what helped get Trump into Office. Unless you’re a rich bitch, got a shit ton of grants, or a full scholarship, no one goes to college for free in the U.S. No one. Stop believing the lies, question what you’ve been told, and actually talk to POC.
One black person gets a scholarship due to their activism, and white people see that as every black person going to college free just for being black.
the spanking debate isn’t all that complicated. you’re either ok with hitting small kids who are completely defenseless and literally at your mercy, or you’re not. supporting the first option makes you a bad and dangerous person, and unfit to be a parent, and im sorry to say but there’s no way around this, no excuses or loopholes. it is what it is
I’ve told this story before and my clam chowder is getting cold but fuck it.
A couple years ago while I was working for a care center during my ece training – we had a big thing about spankings. We went around and asked children who were spanked how they felt about it and what it told them or how it made them feel.
Then when the parents were over, we anonymously read everything that was said by the children on how they view spankings and unanimously it was found that the children never saw it as a growing experience.
It was “painful” “really scary” “I thought mommy hated me now” and we often found it never actually TAUGHT the kids what they did wrong. in fact it seemed to teach them that at any moment your mommy or daddy would just haul up and smack you until you cried and said it was for your own good.
Needless to say I’m pretty sure we changed a lot of parents opinions on spanking and SHOCK OF SHOCKS actually TALKING to their children worked far better disiplinary
I even included my own story, pretending I was telling an outside story “well, I happened to know one person who’s mother only stopped spanking them cause they got tall and big real fast so they could fight back. so there’s a lot of intimidation and fear to your children.” and just – I’ll never forget the dawning look of realization on their faces
The most common argument I hear is, “Look, my parents spanked me and I turned out fine.”
Stolen from elsewhere on the internet but now my defult response: “No you didn’t–you think it is okay to hit little kids.”
One thing I think is useful to conceptualize when thinking about the severity of depression is figuring out what counts as a ‘task’ to your brain
for example, healthy people outlining the tasks they need to do that day might be something like
– class – work – homework
if a healthy person is having a low energy day, maybe it becomes
– make breakfast – go to class – class – go to work – work – come home from work – work on an essay – do 2 readings
a depressed person, on a high energy day will probably see that same day as
– make breakfast – eat breakfast – take meds – shower – get dressed – walk to bus – take bus … etc
a depressed person, on a low energy day will see that same day as
– wake up – get out of bed – walk to bathroom – use bathroom – stand back up – walk to kitchen – open fridge – take out juice – set on counter – go to cabinet – reach up arm – take down glass – unscrew lid of juice carton – pour juice – drink the juice – finish the juice …etc
the sort of chronic exhaustion manifests in how each ‘task’ takes a certain amount of energy and when you have depression, what begins to take that amount of energy- and thus, cognitively count as a ‘task’- are smaller and smaller subdivisions of what other people consider tasks.
And the more ‘tasks’ you do, the less energy you have, and the smaller the subdivisions must be to take equivalent amounts of energy. And the longer that “to do” list of tasks is, the more exhausting and overwhelming and hopeless it feels, which creates a feedback loop of dysfunction.
So say our depressed person on a low energy day gets all the way to finishing their glass of juice. They’ve actually gotten through a lot of tasks! They’ve tried really hard.
But to a healthy person, even on a low energy day, that probably looks like not having done anything- not having gotten through any tasks. And when our depressed person is surrounded by healthy people, they will likely internalize that they haven’t done anything, and further that they can’t complete any tasks no matter how hard they try. And that feeds worthlessness and suicidal ideation
That, I think, is why it’s so important to encourage your depressed and chronically low-energy friends when they accomplish tasks, even if they’re operating at a level of subdivision that you don’t recognize. It is an accomplishment to get water and actually drink it for some folks. It is an accomplishment to get to class or to work.
And acknowledging how hard someone is trying and how much energy they’re putting towards accomplishing those tasks can make a huge difference in whether they feel worthless and hopeless or whether they feel like it’s worth it to keep doing what they can.
“It’s one thing to ask audiences to suspend belief for this fairy tale, and it’s a whole other thing to ask them to consider for one moment that an otherwise sane woman would be so desperate as to fall for a creature who can’t even survive on dry land–not when there are actual men in this town.”
Haha man someone tell this dude that he is not the hot commodity that he thinks he is and personally speaking I for one am eager to get away from actual men and be whisked into the loving arms of a fishman.
id fuck a fish monster before even giving my number to a man who admits his best quality is being able to survive on dry land
I actually read the review, and it seems the writer is utterly unsure why any woman would want to fuck a fish. So I decided to explain why anyone would want to fuck Monsters.
It’s explained why in the damn trailer. The lovely princess is practically hysterical when she says that the fish man doesn’t see her as ‘missing parts’. He never sees her muteness, the fact that she isn’t ‘whole’. The fact that her prince can learn to love, accept her, and show her kindness without any pity or seeing her as ‘broken’ is why she falls in love with him.
In a society that is quick to judge who is ‘,broken’ , ‘fractured’, or ‘not right’, Monsters are appealing because they wouldn’t rely on human conventions to make the choice to love you. You can be beautiful, amazing, and well…you. The idea is that the Monster won’t spurn you, for being yourself.
In this world full of people, how many can say that they were accepted for all their flaws and faults? Does this reviewer honestly think so highly of himself, to not be able to understand a basic lesson on acceptance?
Very few people in this world are accepting. However the things not of this world, maybe they’re the keys to a happier future.
Ok but real talk…
Five bucks says this guy never thinks it’s weird that there are sexy pin-up mermaids
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